Last time, I mentioned that there is always a perspective available from which everything is perfect. Let me show it to you.
It’s perfect that I’ve spent a month, six customer service calls, four SIM cards, and still don’t have my phone number transferred to the new provider, because:
I needed the practice in dealing with frustration.
It’s helped me find other ways to connect with my clients.
Who wouldn’t want that story to tell?
It’s perfect that our beloved cat Pumpkin became terminally ill and suffering, because:
We learned to practice compassion for her, even when it was hard.
We had a chance to experience our values around life and death.
It’s perfect that we miss Pumpkin and grieve her, because:
It connects us to the human experience.
It helps us appreciate what we lost and what we have.
It’s perfect that the sun is rising on another day in Las Cruces, because:
Just as Doug says, it is another day in paradise.
All of life is a gift. Its ups and downs, joys and frustrations need never have existed. Death, too, is a gift.
How do you find this perspective? One short-cut is this question: ask yourself “How is this perfect?” Thanks to my sister Martha Beck life coaches Michele Woodward and Amy Johnson for sharing their experience with this.
Another way is to read books from authors who understand this. I’ve just begun looking at the works of Esther and Jerry Hicks, and they have clues. I’d also like to recommend A Thousand Names for Joy by Byron Katie, who lives in that perspective, and Elements of Poker, by Tommy Angelo, who has found how all the stress of poker is perfect.
Finding the perfect in everything gives comfort and peace. I know. I’ve needed it. So I will end this with thanks to my life coach, Dee Carrell. Dee’s coaching has been by far the most supportive and powerful way for me to find this perspective.